Ask and it shall be given you;seek, and ye shall find;knock, and it shall be opened unto you .

 

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Matt7:7-8

 

Forward a Solution Other Than Tell Me to Leave Him!

 

I am a 21 years old fresh woman student. I love my faith very much since I have been nurtured in a Sunday school from my early childhood. I have now fallen in love with a Moslem boy. Though I have tried to convert him to my creed, I have not succeeded. I now want your advice other than tell me leave my love. I am afraid his insistence would affect my chrisian life.

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Dear our sister in Christ,

A believer is known, among other things, by his/her commitment to prioritize things. There are virtues a Christian shall never sacrifice. This care should also be reflecting in selecting the person with whom to be unified through the mystery of matrimony. The top most criteria to be taken into account in this holy venture is check if the would- be partner has the same spiritual objective. Outward appearance or any other ephemeral proximity between a female and a male is by no means a conclusive seal to effect a reliable unity between them. Christians give precedence to the external over the temporary and to the invisible over the visible. 2 cor 4:17-18 .

 

To rush towards marriage without securing unity of mission will most likely make the future life partners one of sorrow. This may at least detach from God. We need to take a decision by taking not the short-term carnal lust but in light of whether our venue would help us win the paradise.

 

One of the reasons behind the rife divorces we are witnessing these days is lack of unity in faith. Even if both partners claim to subscribe to Christianity, they are ultimately fated to disunity because they are not equally committed. If one aspires to repent and take the Holy communion, the other says no. as a result, their love and peace fades away leaving the place for disagreement which may culminate itself in their divorce.

 

Look! Even the marriage of Christian spouses is at risk if they are not equally concerned for their faith. Now, you could see how lethal it is for you to conclude marriage with a non-christian. You are worrying much about your future at the outset. Surely, this will grow worse as time passes if you turn your deaf ears favouring to conclude an unholy union.

 

How are you to celebrate your marriage? Are you thinking of ways other than the holy crown which you deserve for preserving your cleanliness? Are your children going to be christened or not? Which holiday are you going to observe? Easter or Arafa? Think of all these complications and, if he insists in remaining a non-christian, you better not conclude the marriage.

 

A true christian's mark denying his/her carnal self in favour of spirituality. Mark 8:34-38. No test shall separate a Christian from his/her savior. Romans 8:35 . Before concluding a holy act like marriage, one cannot avoid looking very seriously into give peace for the heart? Is it in agreement with the faith you have vowed never to compromise? Will it take you upper and upper in the rug of holiness or will it demote you? Please evaluate it in view of such serious questions.

 

Please also know that you could not claim to be faithful enough even if you convert him for the sake of marrying him. Well, let's say you succeeded in convincing him to embrace Christianity. What if he says he prefers to live in celibacy to serve Christ better?

We, therefore, advice you to decide in favour of what is immortal. It would have been finer if you knew the extent of your spiritual strength and avoided such a proximity with a non-believer. Well, now it is no use crying over a spilt milk.

 

You better interrupt your dangerour engagement before it is too late. We feel your problem. Yet, you shall be strong enough to take such a measure to avoid future complications which risk your Christian life and its blessings such as peace. You may not find our response palatable right now since you are seriously tested. We, however, confidently tell you to give priority for a peaceful future which also ensures your winning of eternal life.

 

Please be strong. It may now be as heavy as death is for you to leave him. Since Christ is with you, you could overcome it. Phill 4:12 . it is also good if you consult your soul father and/or other sisters/brothers who are strong in their faith. Let God and His Mother help you attain even more strength in your faith. Amen!!